Emotional Safety Plan

The experience of being abused and verbally degraded by someone is usually exhausting and emotionally draining. The process of surviving and building a new life requires much courage and incredible energy. To conserve your emotional energy and to support yourself in hard emotional times, there are a number of things you can do:

  • Attend as many counselling sessions as you can
  • Join support groups of other women to gain support and strengthen your relationships with other people
  • Take time for yourself to read, meditate, play music, etc.
  • Spend time with people who make you feel good and provide support
  • Take care of your sleep and nutrition needs
  • Keep a personal journal to write about your feelings, especially when you are feeling low and vulnerable. Keep it in a safe place or burn it after you are done
  • Take time to prepare yourself emotionally before stressful situations, like talking to your ex-partner, meeting with lawyers or attending court
  • Be creative and do whatever makes you feel good
  • Write something positive about yourself every day
  • Its OK to feel angry but find positive and constructive ways to express this feeling
  • Try not to overbook yourself. Limit yourself to one appointment per day to reduce stress
  • Become involved in community activities to reduce feeling isolated
  • Take part in social activities, e.g. movie, dinner, exercise
  • Do not find your comfort in excessive use of alcohol or food. It only serves to increase your depression
  • Avoid excessive shopping and impulsive buying
  • Join a health club or start an exercise program, it will increase your energy level and increase your sense of well being
  • Keep your resume up to date for possible upcoming job openings
  • Enroll in school to increase your skills
  • Take a part-time job to reduce isolation and improve your finances

Remember that you are the most important person to take care of right now.